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Taking a moment to jot down some general random goings on in the life of Assalicious. Work, work, work, and did I mention more work? I had to take on another job to pay my bills and well I'm exhausted, yet pleased at the same time. I am doing some PRN at a rehab facility about an hour away. It's definitely a new type of nursing for me. Working with people coming off of drugs and alcohol isn't something I've done before. It's an interesting view into the human condition for sure. I'm enjoying it and hope to get in as much time there learning as I can. Trying to do more around the house and have actually helped clean the kitchen the other night and actually did the kitchen on my own last night. You have NO idea how huge this is. Especially knowing that I put in 64 hours last week at work and am slated to put in 56 this week. This of course doesn't take into account the 30 hours of driving that goes along with or the fact that I am in school. To say I am busy is an understatement. I cooked dinner last night as well. I made momma's "made with my own hands" hamburge rs and the kidletts said they were the best they've had. They actually were pretty freakin' tasty. Not too done, very moist, and just the right amount of seasoning to make them ooze juice as you bit into them. We had seasoned potato wedges as an accoutrement (there's that French speaking side of me again). The large male child appears to be falling out of love with football. I knew this was going to happen and have figured he's played for a long time in order to appease me. I just have always had this feeling that if he didn't have something like football he would grow up hiding out in his room and never coming out. Going to have to see where this leads, but I do know that no matter what I am so proud of his efforts. Monkey is really missing having me around. I feel awful about having to be gone so much, but it's a necessary evil in order to have a roof over our head, food in our tummies, and all the bills paid. I have started having her spend time with me when I get ready for work. We talk and work on her homework. Lizard is in love and out of love so much these days. Boys are breaking her heart and that makes me sad. We are definitely communicating more and I am trying to help her through the decision making process in regard to what does and what does not constitute a healthy relationship. Which makes me feel like a fraud as I am just learning what the hell that is myself. We're muddling through! 
On the man front, I am getting a lot more attention lately. Which has its benefits and its ugly side as well. It's good for the ego, but very difficult in that I have so many different wants and needs from a prospective person of interest. Being married is a ditch 'em quickly (why do I appear to be a married man magnet?) as well as the ones who are just interested in a hook up. And the others, well I am realizing that I have the right to be very picky and choosy. So I have come up with the Assalicious prospective person of interest list (aka APPIL). APPIL - I want someone who is responsible and either is a great father already or wants to be one (My children are my number one priority and until they are out of the house, their needs come first!)
- I want someone who has goals in mind and a plan on how to get there.
- I want someone who works as hard as I do. A J-O-B is imperative.
- I want someone who puts forth effort into making a relationship work (I'm high maintenance and like to be called, texted, emailed, and romanced and I do the same in return-I give as good as I get!) and realizes that that "giddy in love" feeling becomes muted and transforms into a "comfortable in love" feeling and that is okay.
- I do not want to be with someone who is constantly looking for the next bigger and better.
- I want to find someone who has his own interests and doesn't feel like I have to be up his ass all the time.
- We should share some common interests, though, so as to have things to do together (going out for sushi, going out to the movies or staying home watching a movie, going out to restaurants or him staying in and cooking for me (I love being spoiled), and him being able to make up these plans for us without me comes to mind. I'm tired of always having to make the plans).
- We do need to share a love of music (can you name that tune from five seconds of listening is a favorite game of mine!) as it is something very close to me (I love going to concerts, but don't have to be up against the stage to enjoy myself. I'm there to HEAR the music!).
- He has to be openminded.
- My perfect someone won't smoke (I totally love to lay on a man's chest and breathe in his air and when a man smokes let's just say that it totally ruins it for me), do drugs or have a recent history of drug use (the words "I quit for you!" only leads to issues), someone who drinks socially but doesn't feel like his life isn't complete without alcohol in it. I don't want to go to bars all the time, but on occasion it's fine (especially if they have a cool cover band like Hogans in Birmingham!).
- He has to wear sandals and shorts (on occasion as it would be pretty crazy for me to want a man to wear them in the dead of winter!)
- He has to make me laugh. A sense of humor is a MUST!
- He must be able to carry on a conversation intelligently and if we are texting, instant messaging, or emailing, grammar and spelling are essential (it's my list damnit and my wants so
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I really have a short list, but it's proving to be one that knocks a bunch of candidates off the APPIL. I am realizing though that right now I am learning who I am and how to have fun just making friends and getting to know people. I'm not really interested in finding my prospective person of interest right now. I'm just basking in the attention and having fun finding me. My list is there for me to consult when and if the time comes. I'm cool with being almost divorced and on my own. I never thought I would say that, but it's true.
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